How to Ejaculate Faster for Men with Delayed Ejaculation

Taking longer than expected to ejaculate can turn an intimate moment into a frustrating waiting game. An occasional delay is usually normal, but if it happens repeatedly, prevents orgasm, or causes distress, it may be Delayed Ejaculation (DE). Common triggers include low stimulation, slow-building arousal, mental distraction, certain medicines, and health conditions.

The good news is that you can often improve ejaculation speed by changing how you build arousal and stimulation. Practical methods focus on increasing penile sensitivity, staying mentally engaged, strengthening pelvic muscles, and avoiding habits that interfere with sexual response.

This guide explains how to ejaculate faster using Kegel exercises, focused breathing, sex toys, new positions, and other natural techniques. It also covers when persistent symptoms need medical evaluation.

1. Perform Kegels daily

Kegels are often linked with lasting longer in bed, but they can also help when ejaculation takes too long. By strengthening the pelvic floor muscles involved in orgasm, you may find it easier to build pressure and release at the right moment. First, identify these muscles by briefly mimicking the action used to stop urine midstream. The muscles you feel tightening are your pelvic floor muscles. Then follow these steps before planned intercourse:

• Squeeze the pelvic muscles tightly for 5-10 seconds.
• Next, lift the muscles upward as if you are moving them inside your pelvis.
• Keep your thighs, buttocks, and abdomen relaxed while doing so.
• Engage in Kegels 10 to 20 times daily for long-term results.

2. Avoid masturbation before sex

If you want arousal to build faster with your partner, it can help to skip masturbation beforehand. Ejaculating solo may temporarily lower desire and reduce penile sensitivity, which can make partnered stimulation feel less intense. Taking a break can build anticipation, increase sensitivity, and make it easier to reach orgasm sooner. To do this:

• Keep your hands busy in non-sexual tasks.
• Stay away from triggers, like pornographic content.
• Try distraction techniques, such as calling a friend, doing light exercise, or reading.

3. Avoid alcohol and smoking

A few drinks or a smoking habit can quietly interfere with the sensations you need to reach climax. Alcohol can dull nerve sensitivity and slow the brain’s response to arousal, while smoking damages the blood vessels and can weaken erections through poor blood flow. Cutting back can improve sensitivity, circulation, energy, and overall sexual response.

• Avoid alcohol for several hours before sexual activity to prevent reduced sensitivity and slower arousal.
• Set a weekly alcohol limit and track each drink to identify patterns.
• Replace alcoholic drinks with non-alcoholic options.
• Choose a quit date and remove cigarettes, vapes, and chewing tobacco from your home.
• Identify smoking triggers, such as alcohol, stress, or social situations.
• Use nicotine replacement products, such as patches, gum, or lozenges, after consulting a doctor.

If it doesn’t help, seek support from a counselor or quit-smoking services.

4. Increase your mental focus

Sometimes the body is ready, but the mind is somewhere else. Thoughts about work, stress, or whether you will climax can interrupt arousal even when physical stimulation feels good. Bringing your attention back to touch, breathing, and your partner can help excitement build more naturally and make orgasm easier to reach.

To increase focus:

• Practice slow, steady breathing for 5–10 minutes before sex to control Performance Anxiety and mental tension.
• Remove distractions by turning off the television, silencing phones, and choosing a private setting.
• Focus on one physical sensation at a time, such as warmth, pressure, or your partner’s touch.
• Use mental imagery by thinking about a shared fantasy or an enjoyable sexual memory.
• Maintain eye contact, kiss slowly, or describe what feels pleasurable to stay emotionally engaged.
• Use a brief grounding technique by noticing what you can see, hear, and feel around you.

5. Stimulate your P-spot

Like women, men have a G-spot too, which is the prostate, located in the anus. This is known as the P-spot, a highly sensitive area that can add a completely different kind of pleasure. Gentle prostate stimulation can intensify arousal and, for some men, lead to stronger or faster orgasms. To stimulate P-spot:

• Clean your hands and trim your nails.
• Next, apply lube to your finger, then insert it into your rectum.
• The prostate is situated on the front wall, facing the belly.
• It will feel like a small walnut; touch it in a ‘come hither’ motion.
• Start slowly, then steadily build the pressure in small circles or press rhythmically, as if you were ringing a doorbell.

Tip: You can ask your partner to stimulate your P-spot while maintaining communication to know your needs. The sensation can feel like a sudden urge to pee, which is completely normal. Ask your partner to start slow and keep a steady pace.

6. Build arousal with foreplay

Foreplay is not just a warm-up; it can make the entire experience feel more exciting and connected. Slow kissing, sensual touch, oral stimulation, role-playing, and suggestive talk can gradually build anticipation. The more mentally and physically aroused you feel before penetration, the easier it can be to reach climax. Start with:

• Setting the mood with dim lighting, soft music, or a comfortable room temperature.
• Next, caress each other slowly and explore sensitive areas such as the neck, chest, inner thighs, and lower back.
• Ask your partner to kiss or lick areas that increase your arousal gradually.
• Try role-playing a shared fantasy, such as meeting as strangers at a bar.
• Use dirty talk to create anticipation, such as, ‘I can’t wait to meet you alone, I’ve got a romantic surprise for you.’

7. Use sex toys for strong sensations

When regular stimulation is not intense enough, sex toys can add the extra sensation your body needs. Vibrators can target the glans, shaft, or underside of the penis, while air-pulse toys create focused sensations without direct mechanical vibration. To use toys:

• First, apply lubricant to your penis to prevent friction.
• Then move the vibrator or penis vibrator on the glans penis (sensitive tip), and then to the shaft and the underside of it.
• Explore your sweet spot, which is the region with the highest sensitivity.
• For prostate orgasm, use prostate massagers or butt plugs with lube.
• Combine the plugs with penis stimulation for faster ejaculation.

You can choose vibrating cock rings that will stimulate both you and your partner at the same time when you fit them around the penis base during intercourse.

8. Try new positions while penetration

Sometimes a simple change in angle can make sex feel completely different. Sex positions that create more friction around the penis or allow deeper penetration may increase stimulation and help arousal build faster. More active positions can also raise your heart rate and breathing, making the experience feel more intense and exciting.

• Try doggy style, where your partner will be on all fours, while you penetrate from behind.
• Do missionary by elevating the partner’s hips using a pillow for deeper thrusts.
• For more physical push and increased friction, do standing intercourse.
• You can penetrate your partner while both of you are standing.
• Use water-based lubricants to increase sensitivity and friction.

9. Try herbal supplements

Herbal supplements are not proven treatments for Delayed Ejaculation, but some men use them to support energy, stress control, circulation, or sexual stamina. maca root, ginkgo biloba, panax ginseng, or ashwagandha are widely used supplements. Any benefits are likely indirect, and evidence remains limited; consult a doctor before use.

• Take supplements daily in tablet, capsule, or powder form.
• Start with the lowest effective dose listed by the manufacturer.
• Follow the manufacturer’s label for accurate dosage and consumption instructions, as they vary by brand and product.

While natural approaches can help you ejaculate quickly, see a doctor for Delayed Ejaculation if it persists and occurs at least 3 out of 4 times during sexual activity for around 6 months and can’t be managed through natural approaches. A timely medical evaluation can help identify the root cause and treat the condition effectively.

Gina, Master of Clinical Pharmacy

Gina Walters is the diet and lifestyle writer at Goodrxmedicine.com. She holds a level 6 diploma in natural nutrition and lifestyle and is an ardent preacher of veganism. A fitness enthusiast by heart, Gina’s passion for fitness follows into her personal life too.